Build a RAFT to Get Through Your Goodbyes

 

无论你的情况如何，在接下来的几周里你都要和很多人说再见. 说一段恰当而美好的再见对于健康地过渡到下一篇章是很重要的. 根据国际知名书籍的作者大卫·波洛克的说法 Third Culture Kids, a good way to do this is building a RAFT. This is an approach 你 can apply now and for any future transitions. Here is how it works:

 

This means forgiving. Repair any broken relationships before 你 leave. Don't go away with an icky feeling. It might be walking up to the person 你 fought with and talking to them. You can do this with a friend if 你 don't want to do this alone. 你可以说，“很抱歉X之后我们没怎么说话，但我祝你暑假愉快。!" The outcome, of course, depends on the other person's response. 但不管他们的反应如何，你已经尽力为自己结束了这一篇章! 你想平静地离开，并在此之前理顺你们的关系. 这样，你就避免了糟糕的记忆和额外的包袱，否则你可能会随身携带多年.

 

我们通过积极的肯定来建立和维持友谊和关系. 在这种情况下, it might be writing 你r favourite teacher a fnew note, 送给你的室友一张你们俩的特别照片，或者送给你的朋友一件他们非常喜欢的红色t恤. A friendly word and hugs count as well! 用这个, 你 are showing them (friends, 老师, cleaning staff…) 你r appreciation, what 你 have learned from them and what they meant to 你.

 

安排时间和你最喜欢的朋友、老师、员工和其他人说再见.

X的婴儿), places (Traditions), 动物(老师的狗)和财产(你没有带的画). Ah, and 你r room! These are all like little ceremonies and will take longer than 你 t劳务. Make a list and tick goodbyes off. Hug, cry and hug some more!

 

Even while 你 are still using up the tissues with a heavy heart, 你 need to t劳务 realistically about 你r 目的地, 你的未来, 今年夏天. Where are 你 going? Your parents' house, 你r home country, a new country? Do 你 need to prepare anything before 你 leave? What do 你 need to organize? 考虑目的地也意味着计划一些你在夏天要做的活动. 这可以是拜访朋友，夏令营，你计划看的电影或者你想见的人. 当你还在说再见的时候，向前看也同样重要!

 

用这个, 你 have everything to build 你r first "raft.“我并不是说这很容易，因为你可能会感到悲伤、矛盾和陌生. 你甚至可能会认为，在接下来的几周里，躲在房间里，然后直接回家可能会更容易. 但你现在做的是故意结束体育菠菜大平台2022-23的章节 你!

 

无论何时你离开一个地方，你都可以用这个技巧说再见, a country or a school in the future. Enjoy making these memories!

 

I wish 你 all a great summer 2023!!

 

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安德里亚

安德里亚·施密特是一名生活教练，专门从事青少年和前斯坦斯特德的父母(杰西卡·洛扎诺·施密特2018). Find out more about her services at http://www.globalgirlcoach.com/ or email andrea@globalgirlcoach.com.